開學了，讀中學的子女們情緒好嗎？
- skintellectualwb
- Sep 5, 2023
- 5 min read
香港人黎到英國會遇到種種困難，子女更不例外。3-10歲還好，仲係吸收力、適應力比較强，容易學習應對環境同人嘅變遷；11歲之後呢，年紀大一年、情緒多一啲、感受强一啲，對身邊環境嘅改變對佢哋黎講好大衝擊。
你有子女係青少年嗎？你有發現佢哋嘅情緒改變嗎？喊？沉默？情緒反常？脾氣差咗？
呢一切都係反映緊佢哋響學校嘅生活係點，如果家長們留意到青少年子女們嘅異常，先別急別嘈，我哋一齊瞭解一下佢哋面對緊嘅係乜野。
青少年在面對開學時可能會經歷各種情緒，這些情緒通常與變化、新的責任和社交壓力有關。以下是一些可能出現的情緒：
1. 焦慮：
新學期開始，青少年可能感到緊張和不安，尤其是如果他們要面對新的老師、新的同學或新的學科。香港人再多一樣：對語言溝通嘅恐懼。試想想，我哋大人對住社會上嘅人去溝通都要做「心理準備」，更何況佢哋一入到學校，就尤如踏入好得人驚嘅龍潭虎穴一樣，上堂要集中精神聽老師嘰哩咕嚕講過不停，機關槍式嘅英文又冇PAUSE制比佢哋㩒，心中嗰種慌你可想而知；面對同學嘅時候點會知道英式溝通頭10句都係你讚我我讚你，先再入正題：How are you today? Very well. And you? I am very good too. You look smart today. You look gorgeous too. Your hair is glomourous. You have a nice hair cut this summer. 下刪唔知幾多字都未入到正題。。。that's how teens react with each other. 大人都未必做得到，你諗吓阿仔阿女返到去學校要學呢種武林絕學，點會一時三刻就講到出黎。隨之而來嘅係不安、懷疑自己、抑鬱、自卑、怕被取笑、怕講錯嘢等，一系列嘅情緒如排山倒海般湧出嚟。如果你阿仔阿女冇呢個情況，我真係恭喜佢呀！佢一定語言能力高同埋有滿滿嘅自信，適應能力都好好，咁你可以擔心少陣；如果阿仔阿女有以上情況，請你付出一公噸嘅耐性，把口停一停，諗一諗，佢哋喊、發脾氣、講晦氣說話、情緒差好大機會係因為佢哋受到嘅衝擊同改變好大，或者所有嘢都不似預期，所以先會咁樣。呢個時候，佢哋需要嘅係父母嘅諒解同安慰支持，並非喋喋不休同打鬧。家長們可以多講：你可能響學校會有好大衝擊或者暫時未如意，你有咩需要或支持，爸爸 媽媽一定會比你！ / 今日見你同平時有啲唔同，分享一下學校嘅事比我哋聽可以嘛？/ 你今日嘅情緒好似有啲唔穩定喎，我哋等你平靜咗先，再同我哋講發生咩事丫！（跟住同佢做一啲佢會心情好嘅野，例如女仔食吓甜品，男仔打吓波或者比時間佢自閉一下，睇吓佢哋個情況係點樣）
2. 興奮
一些青少年可能對開學感到興奮，因為佢哋期待與朋友團聚，參加新的課程和活動。不過對於香港嘅年輕人，我指中學生，可能就難少少。最敏感年齡係10-14歲，佢哋唔似大個嗰啲一條心讀書考GCSE，又唔似細嗰啲開開心心日日happy school。
3. 壓力
學術壓力和課業要求可能導致一些青少年感到壓力重重。他們可能擔心表現不佳或應對 難題。香港人成日都諗，啲人唔係話香港人過到嚟課程會淺好多嗎？非也，因為大家都冇留意數學以外嘅科目上到中學其實難讀咗，因為冇書。你上堂抄到幾多你就有幾多，抄唔到返黎，你就乜都冇。
4. 不安
在新環境中，青少年可能會感到不安，尤其是如果他們剛剛轉學或換了學校。睇得呢個POST嘅大家大都應該係呢個情況。
5. 社交焦慮
一些青少年可能會面臨社交壓力，擔心與同學相處或適應新社交圈。我哋呢度講緊嘅就係上面#1 嘅情況。好多香港學生會響頭一個星期至一個月嘅黃金時期，錯過咗同同學仔建立關係嘅機會，之後佢哋再要建立關係就會變得無比困難。
6. 自信
開學時，青少年的自信心可能會受到影響，尤其是如果他們曾經經歷學術或社交挑戰，父母要多注意子女自信心問題。
7. 疲勞
放暑假期間，青少年可能會改變作息時間，個個都自我放飛做夜貓。到逐漸調整回學校的作息可能會令他們感到疲勞，如唔夠瞓成日烏眉瞌睡同打喊路，專注力下降等。呢個時候父母可以提醒子女早瞓啲會令佢哋身體冇咁攰，千萬唔好講：叫咗你早啲瞓架啦！/ 尋晚叫你早瞓你又唔瞓，睇吓你宜家？（呢類說話你千其唔好講，你咁樣係破壞緊感情呀！）
8. 失落感
一些青少年可能會感到失落，因為暑假的自由和休閒時光結束了。呢個大家都明白，因為暑假嘅時候，家長們都應該有同一個感覺。
9. 動力和目標
另一方面，一些青少年可能會在開學時感到動力，會去設立新的學術和個人目標。如果你嘅仔女無咁生性，你可以幫幫手，響開學頭一星期陪佢一齊訂立目標。家長要記住，訂立目標有時間性，如果仔女返咗兩個月你突然要去訂立目標，佢會覺得好奇怪唔識訂。就好似你想為自己訂立目標都一定係響轉咗新環境或有契機嘅情況下去做，唔會話個project做到一半先定個task list一樣。Milestone, Goal setting, 全部都係要響事情發生嘅初段時間做，所以今個星期係key time ah!
對於父母或監護人來說，最重要的是要理解這些情緒，鼓勵青少年表達自己的感受，提供支持和安慰。建立積極的學習和社交環境，以幫助他們順利過渡到新學期。如果青少年的情緒問題持續存在或變得嚴重，可能需要專業心理健康支持。
歡迎各位家長留言分享自己所遇到嘅情況，到時再出POST為大家解答。
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Teenagers may experience a variety of emotions as they face the start of school, often related to change, new responsibilities, and social pressures. Here are some possible emotions that we parents need to pay attention to:
1. Anxiety
Teenagers may feel nervous and uneasy at the beginning of a new semester, especially if they are dealing with new teachers, new classmates, or new subjects. In Year 7 - 11, it is always uneasy for them to get adapted to the burdening syllabus and massive amount of information to be studied.
2. Excitement
Some teens may be excited about the start of school, looking forward to reuniting with friends and participating in new classes and activities.
3. Stress
Academic pressure and coursework demands can cause some teens to feel stressed out. They may worry about performing poorly or coping with difficult situations.
4. Unsettled
Teenagers may feel uneasy in new situations, especially if they have just transferred or changed schools.
5. Social Anxiety
Some teens may experience social pressure and worry about getting along with classmates or adjusting to new social circles.
6. Self-Confidence
Teenagers' self-confidence may be affected when school starts, especially if they have experienced academic or social challenges.
7. Fatigue
Teenagers may experience changes in their schedules during the summer break, and the gradual adjustment back to school may make them feel fatigued.
8. Sense of loss
Some teens may feel lost because the freedom and leisure time of summer vacation is over.
9. Motivation and goals
On the other hand, some teens may feel motivated when school starts, setting new academic and personal goals.
It is important for parents and caregivers to understand these emotions, encourage teens to express their feelings, and provide support and comfort. Establish a positive learning and social environment to help them transition smoothly into the new term. If a teen's emotional problems persist or become severe, professional mental health support may be needed.
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